Dementia Care in Selden, NY: In-Home Alzheimer's Care

Local figures

Dementia Care in Selden, NY: the local picture

433

residents 85 or older (2.0% of all residents)

3,540

residents 65 or older (16% of Selden)

34%

of residents 65+ report a disability (28% in Suffolk County)

6+

Medicare-certified nursing homes within 25 miles

Selden has about 433 residents aged 85 or older among 3,540 aged 65 or older. The risk of Alzheimer’s rises steeply with age, and the Alzheimer’s Association estimates that about a third of people 85 and older have Alzheimer’s dementia.

34% of residents 65 and older report a disability (28% in Suffolk County). The Census counts cognitive difficulty as one kind, alongside hearing, vision, walking, self-care and living independently.

17% of older Selden residents in households live alone. For someone with memory loss who lives alone, a few hours of daily check-ins are often the first step.

Selden compared with Suffolk County and New York

Census figure	Selden	Suffolk County	New York
Residents 85 or older	2.0%	2.2%	2.2%
Residents 65 or older	16%	18%	18%
Residents 65+ with a disability	34%	28%	32%
Residents 65+ in households who live alone	17%	23%	29%
Residents 65+ below the poverty line (approx.)	8.5%	7.3%	13%
Residents 5+ who speak a language other than English at home	24%	25%	31%
Median income, households headed by someone 65+	$80,507	$87,077	—

Older residents in towns around Selden

Town	Distance	Residents 65+	Residents 85+
Centereach, NY	1.9 mi	4,757	800
Coram, NY	2.2 mi	7,167	768
Farmingville, NY	2.3 mi	1,858	151
Terryville, NY	2.6 mi	1,640	297
Lake Grove, NY	3.8 mi	1,946	247
Port Jefferson Station, NY	3.9 mi	925	89

Nursing homes near Selden

Nursing home	Town	Distance	CMS overall rating	Certified beds	Phone
Jefferson's Ferry	South Setauket, NY	2.5 mi	5 of 5	60	(631) 650-2700
Allegria Nursing & Rehab Center Of Port Jefferson	Port Jefferson Stati, NY	2.7 mi	1 of 5	143	(631) 473-7100
Island Nursing And Rehab Center	Holtsville, NY	3.5 mi	4 of 5	120	(631) 758-3336
Long Island State Veterans Home	Stonybrook, NY	4.1 mi	5 of 5	350	(631) 444-8500
Surge Rehabilitation And Nursing LLC	Middle Island, NY	4.3 mi	2 of 5	164	(631) 924-8820
Quantum Rehabilitation And Nursing LLC	Middle Island, NY	4.3 mi	5 of 5	120	(631) 924-8830

Hospices serving Selden

Hospice	Office	Distance	Phone
Nyu Langone Hospital - Suffolk Hospice	Patchogue, NY	8.2 mi	(631) 687-2960
Vns And Hospice Of Suffolk, Inc	East Northport, NY	14 mi	(631) 930-9399
East End Hospice, Inc	Westhampton Beach, NY	21 mi	(631) 288-8400
Good Shepherd Hospice	Farmingdale, NY	22 mi	(631) 465-6300

Straight-line miles from the center of Selden. Medicare (CMS) data, October 2026; call ahead to confirm. We are not affiliated with these providers.

What it covers

What a dementia caregiver can help with

Keeping a predictable daily routine
Gentle help with bathing, dressing and toileting
Meals, hydration and medication reminders
Calming approaches for sundowning, agitation and repeated questions

Cost

What dementia care costs in Selden

At the New York median aide wage of $19.05 an hour, 20 hours of help a week comes to about $1,651 a month in wages, which is 25% of the $6,709 monthly median income of Selden households headed by someone 65 or older. Private rates are agreed directly with the caregiver, so yours may be higher or lower. New York's minimum wage is $17.00 in New York City, Nassau, Suffolk and Westchester counties, $16.00 in the rest of the state (U.S. Department of Labor table, updated July 1, 2026).

Hiring directly, you agree the rate with the caregiver and usually become the household employer (U.S. Department of Labor rules). Some families qualify for programs that pay for care at home; see CDPAP in New York: how to get paid to care for a family member.

Before you hire

What to know before hiring a dementia caregiver

An estimated 7.2 million Americans aged 65 and older are living with Alzheimer’s dementia, according to the Alzheimer’s Association 2025 Facts and Figures. Most live at home, cared for by family. The Association’s 24/7 Helpline (1-800-272-3900) is free.

Questions worth asking: Tell me about someone with dementia you cared for. What worked? What do you do when a client becomes agitated in the late afternoon? How do you keep someone safe who tries to leave the house? More in our dementia care guide.

CaregiverConnect does not run background checks. Check identity, references and any certification yourself before anyone starts. The Safety Center explains how.

Questions

Dementia Care in Selden: common questions

What nursing homes are near Selden?

The closest Medicare-certified nursing homes are Jefferson's Ferry in South Setauket (2.5 mi, 5 of 5 overall); Allegria Nursing & Rehab Center Of Port Jefferson in Port Jefferson Stati (2.7 mi, 1 of 5 overall); Island Nursing And Rehab Center in Holtsville (3.5 mi, 4 of 5 overall). Ratings are from Medicare Care Compare.

How much does dementia care cost in Selden?

At the New York median aide wage of $19.05 an hour, 20 hours of help a week comes to about $1,651 a month in wages, which is 25% of the $6,709 monthly median income of Selden households headed by someone 65 or older. Private rates are agreed directly with the caregiver, so yours may be higher or lower. New York's minimum wage is $17.00 in New York City, Nassau, Suffolk and Westchester counties, $16.00 in the rest of the state (U.S. Department of Labor table, updated July 1, 2026).

When does someone with dementia need care at home?

Common signs are missed meals or medication, getting lost in familiar places, unsafe cooking or driving, and a family caregiver who is exhausted. Many families start with a few hours a day and add hours, nights or live-in help as the disease progresses.

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Sources

Census ACS 2020–2024 5-year; CMS provider data (October 25, 2026); U.S. DOL state minimum wages (July 1, 2026); BLS OEWS May 2025 aide wages, which cover employed aides rather than private rates.

In-Home Dementia and Alzheimer's Care in Selden, NY